This isn't actual chemistry like you would learn about in high school. This is my rambling thoughts on chemistry of a personal nature. Between two people.
I personally believe in chemistry. It's something that effects me in huge ways so I can't not be a believer. While there may be a woman who is undeniably attractive if I don't feel chemistry with her...that..spark...that connection...*shug*
But when there is chemistry? *>WHAM<* Chemistry is my favorite word for it because...of the way the other person effects me. Their smell...their taste...their skin on mine...their breath...all cause an excitement in me...that becomes so basic...so deeply effecting to me on my smallest levels that I can't not be attracted to them.
It's rare for me to feel this way towards someone...but sadly it happens.
I have a friend who was told, by a boy she was head over heels for, that he didn't like the way she smelled. Not her perfume. Not her deodorant. But her base scent. This is also chemistry. He chemically didn't mesh with her. Like acid to base.
To me she smells like rain in a fall forest, almond blossoms, and sunshine. Her skin is sweetness and salt. My brain can not even grasp how anyone...ever..could not want to bury their face in her hair...nuzzle at her neck softly kissing and tasting the skin there.
I can only imagine he smells like rotted pickles, mold, and disappointment.
Chemistry, for me, filters everything else. If I just indulge my senses I become very primal. Animalistic thoughts, wants, and desires boil forth washing over my rational mind. I tend to keep myself in check. When in situations where this could be an issue, like say...always, I reign myself in. I move away from the person I most want to be next to. I look anywhere but at them.
When two people click chemically and can actually act on those feelings. SHAZAM!!
If you can find someone who does this for you let them know. Worst case...you creep them out and they stop talking to you...your circle of friends gets skewed because they avoid you but you all want to hang out together and when you all meet up things are awkward and you end up splitting friends up and no one will go bowling with you.
But the chances of that happening are rare and the payoff is worth that risk.
"But the chances of that happening are rare and the payoff is worth that risk."
ReplyDeleteI wish it actually felt that way, rather than just leaving a feeling of loss, disappointment, and raw vulnerability.